The Conversation That Matters Most
Let us begin our review by noting that this author’s purpose in writing this book is to study the experiences of people in life. Comedians, like talk show hosts, political and national news anchors, we are told, all rely on various forms of conversation to provide information and enjoyment as a means to connect people. As a specialist in social networking, I would certainly concur that conversation enables one to connect to people in various endeavors and segments of society. Many medical clinical trials deal with the mind and emotional balance and would agree that the latter is important in this regard.
The author focuses on the learning that happens from casual conversations, both how others learn from us, and what we project and learn from others. Education and intelligence may be less important to some people than the learning they do through these conversations with those around them, and internally with themselves. Common sense may be as potentially important to one’s mental development and growth as native intelligence and formal education.
Common sense encompasses many of the following: the ability to evaluate a situation, ability to take lessons from one’s environment, and the ability to make a simple judgment, such as getting married, changing jobs or meeting a new friend. One must, according to this researcher, be alert to what’s happening in surroundings, such as an accident in the street or new neighbors moving into a neighborhood. Alternatively, two types of knowledge — education and experience — must be blended together. Intelligence is a big predictor whether one acquires knowledge from study or experience. The author notes that common sense involves reasoning, abstract thinking and understanding new material and profiting from past experience.
In one of the most brilliant aspects of the book, namely on being employed, I concur with the author that career choices for monetary gain are important in one’s pursuit of a vocation. What skills one possesses, how dependable and reliable one is, and the ability to work with others are the essentials for the labor force. If he performs well, the employer will continue to invest in the employee. If he is a neglectful employee, it hinders the relationship with current and future “investors.”
While participating in a Dale Carnegie course it was found, that various types of intelligence foster intelligent conversation. Instant communication enables one to see expressions and or to be able to recognize emotions. Paul Ekman of the University of California in outstanding research, has studied the whole field of non-verbal behavior and its effect on emotion. It is important, as the author so well enumerates, to remove toxins from our lives and allow us to move past the hurt of life’s hardships.
This is a wonderful beginning for a first-time writer who has shown that life’s conversations with its goals, ethics, and beliefs, are important. Further research in this area might involve a book or books dealing with the psychology of lifestyles or counseling which would interest a major publisher.