Becoming Love Able

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When you think of relationship advice books, what comes to mind first? That they’re mostly for women to “satisfy” their man, to “turn their love life around.” And they’re either books filled with vague verbose content or strict bullet point lists that must be followed to the letter if you “truly want your man to love you and remain faithful.” And what about relationship advice books for men? Thankfully, there’s a new book on relationship advice for men that’s the complete opposite of all these things. It’s called Becoming Love Able: How a Man Can Grow to be a More Loving Partner by Richard Matzkin.

Matzkin begins the book with an invocation, “The world needs the message of men’s love. You can be a messenger,” and an introduction to what the reader can get from Becoming Love Able. He provides an author’s note on his background with reference to relationships, as well as talking about his own happy marriage of almost forty years.

The book is divided into four parts. The first part, “Men, Love, and Kindness,” explores what love actually means and the many areas it can go, as well as what it means to love another. Part of this is kindness, what it means to be kind and to give kindness, and how it relates to love. “Relationship” and “Responsible Loving” are the next two sections, as it’s important to understand what a healthy relationship looks like and the many places it can go. Matzkin touches on the stereotypes of men under these headings and how the reader can adapt and change his ways, leading to a stronger bond with his partner. Matzkin makes a point earlier in the book, as well as in this section, that Becoming Love Able is not just for male/female relationships but also male/male and other combinations such as male/non-binary.

The second part, “The Loving Promises,” consists of the thirty-nine vows to make with your partner for a strong relationship. At the end of each section, Matzkin presents questions to help the reader along in processing what they have read. The third part explores, once a relationship has begun, the issues and conflicts that can arise, learning where the problems arise and how to resolve them together as a couple. The final part, “Working With the Promises,” talks about living in a healthy relationship with those vows, along with some helpful suggestions.

Whether you read Becoming Love Able from cover to cover at the start of a relationship or pick and choose certain chapters when you reach those hurdles in your relationship, whatever problem you are having, chances are you’ll be able to find some helpful advice in Becoming Love Able.

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Star Count 4/5
Format Hard
Page Count 304 pages
Publisher First Edition Design Publishing
Publish Date 18-Aug-2022
ISBN 9781506907314 Buy this Book
Issue December 2022
Category Relationships & Sex